Nigerian Fathers do not hug their Sons

When last did you see a Father hug his grown up Son in Public

Adebola (not real name) wrote on his facebook wall

“My father has never been the affectionate type. We never had the
father and son thing we always see on Hollywood.
His role with me started the night he got my mom pregnant and
ended each day when he came home from work and sat watching
TV.

I attend Lagos state university.
I came home few days back after the close of the second
semester.
While unpacking my box, my dad walked into my room and asked
for a hug.
I was confused but said okay.
He came over, hugged me, looked at me and grinned
Then he left the room.

Please is this a shape shifter cos,that Is surely not my dad”

Nowadays it is becoming kinda awkward seeing a father and son
share an embrace out in the open especially when the son comes
of a certain age.

Most sons today just like Adebola, would feel embarrassed if
their fathers were to approach them for a hug.
Whereas, hugging is becoming foreign to these folks, moms then
again are constantly prepared to embrace and kiss their kids at
any given point notwithstanding when its a bit too much.

Hugging brings an extraordinary sort of closeness and an
exceptional sort of bond which is shaped between mother and
child.

On the long run, a father who at the early stages didn’t share such
relationship with their son, becomes insecure when he detects a
developing closeness between mother and son thinking he is now
less loved.
Some fathers even accuse their wives of putting the child
against them especially ,when he begins to notice that the child
always takes the mothers side when there is a misunderstanding
in the home.

This issue (if i can call it that), is not peculiar to Nigeria or Africa alone.
It is also becoming foreign to the foreigners as well.

In a BBC radio program in the year 2012, Ex deputy prime minister
of Britain John Prescott talked on how he was a bit detached as a
father to two of his sons, blaming his background and culture for
this" He said,

“I have two brilliant sons and I love them to death, but to my regret
I cannot somehow put my arms around them I don’t know
where it comes from but I very much regret that I never had that”

I feel that fathers ought to dependably make time to reflect in
order to understand the sort of parent they are.
A father may not know how to show openly his affection for his
son so ,it would be unreasonable to quantify his adoration for his
child with this.

However, all fathers ought to realize that those easily overlooked
details may turn out to be the most essential things


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